Community Agreements Exercise

We have an advisory dialogue — not to argue or argue, and not just to listen. We want to share our own experience and listen to the perspectives of others, because we know it is necessary to preserve the fabric of our community. In conversation, we offer and obtain perspectives, knowledge and data/theories of consideration and curiosity. When we debate or argue, we realize ourselves and we realize each other and insist on changes of course. If we grasp ourselves and each other with perspectives, we open the door to those perspectives that can be shared, either by telling ourselves or by inviting others to speak. If we do not yet know what we think, we even offer this so that no one is surprised by our silence. These agreements were concluded by Ferananda Ibarra, Chris Corrigan, Krisztina Kun, Trilby Smith, Katy Golinsky, Gray Miller Creative, Ankit Chhabra, wolf, Nadja Petranovskaja, Brandy Agerbeck, Natalie Ord, Monica Brasov-Curca, Christine Martell, Jill Banting, Rachel Marcuse, Ken Lima-Coelho, Mark Busse, Julie Gieseke Group Councils/Community Conventions are working papers in continuous development and are checked and amended to change any other meetings Again, the exercise of community agreements is mandatory, and at times I have suggested that we do not, or something else, I have received some pretty strong negative reactions, assuming I don`t believe leadership. But it is precisely because I believe in common leadership that I think the way we have community agreements is somehow wrong. We found that in the spaces that we facilitate, more often than not, when someone does or says something that does damage or supports the values of the deletion systems, it is not their intention to do so. But if we use our good intentions to deny (or avoid) the damage, more damage will be done. The issue in this Community agreement is that we are all doing the work to recognize that our intention and the impact of our actions are two different things, and take responsibility for all the negative effects we have. (This can be as simple as an excuse.) LEAD Together, let`s ask members to be active participants in November`s training sessions and project events and to represent this community seven days a week. We all have a role and a responsibility to represent this global movement.

From #GrassrootsGear to carry around the world, November project member is not at 7:30 to stop. Kindness, accountability and hard work are contagious, so you feel free to spread them around. Community group guidelines/agreements are reviewed at the beginning of meetings each time a new person has joined. NOTE: There are a few community agreements that are often addressed to participants that we do not use or do not bring. Two of the most common are “accepting the best intentions” and “trusting the norm.” The reason we don`t use it is that if someone is not able to do it (they say they don`t feel familiar, or unsure), with a community agreement that tells them to do so, nothing will change. These agreements are not always realistic, especially if we take into account the fact that when people have been harmed by sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, classicism, they/we build the tools necessary to support ourselves and protect ourselves. The agreements we propose instead, which capture the spirit of these encounters, are “we cannot be articulated all the time”, “to be generous with each other” or “it is a space to learn.” It is no secret that the world of Eastern spirituality in the West is ripe for sexual abuse – whether it is contemporary account settlements such as in the yoga world of Ashtanga or older examples in communities like Shambhala International.