Monthly Archives: April 2017

Letter to You

Hi Victor, 

I’ve said it a thousand times, but it’s so true, you are my pride and joy. You may find it hard to believe, but every moment with you is a treasure. Sure we don’t always agree or “battle”, but I love you and want to be with you. Since your sister was born the time we have together is not as much as I want, and I know you need and want Daddy’s attention, but I believe you having a sister will be wonderful for you as you as you grow up and you will help and protect her as well. You’ve already protected her by warning mommy and daddy when sister put something in her mouth she shouldn’t have. And I can see you both are getting along better with time. 

Now we are in China, it’s been good experience for you so far. You are speaking Chinese and learning how it feels to be in China, the food, people, culture. It’s important for you to spend time with the Chinese family, Waigong, Laolao, Jiujiu, and Gege. These people are your family, they love you and care about you, they will help you. 

It’s hard for me to let you go for a few weeks, as I have to go back to America, but I know it’s good for you to have this experience and it’s important for your Mommy to be with her Mommy and Daddy as well. This is the first time they will have ever seen your sister as well. 
I’m excited for you to go to Chinese school for a little while. This will help you to be bilingual. You may hate it and not care to be bilingual now, but it will be a huge advantage and benefit for you in the future. 
I suppose you can imagine mommy and daddy are thinking about your future, we want you to do what makes you happy in the future, at the same time there are things we want you to learn and experience so you know who you are and where you come from, to have a strong sense of love and family, to learn to respect and understand our differences, and put you in a good position for a bright future. 
When you come home I plan for us to do a lot of swimming, reading, playing and activities together. 
Please take care of Vivia and be a good boy for Mommy. Enjoy your stay with Waigong, Laolao, Jiujiu, and Gege. 
Lots of love to you and see you in about three weeks.

Lesson Learned

You got upset at the Chinese school. All the teachers tried to be nice, but I think you felt a lot of pressure. You were scared. 
I said Victor, all the people like you. You said why? Why do they like me. How could I explain that as a half-Chinese half-foreigner that Chinese people were so interested in you? They think you are beautiful, smart, and special. I realized that you didn’t understand or appreciate why people wanted to give you attention, see you, talk to you, put you on a kind of pedestal. You just wanted to be a kid like the other kids and enjoy the class. I needed to see things from your perspective. I learned a lesson.