I don’t know how for sure, maybe it was my fault, but somehow you learned the words “I can’t do it.” For example this evening, you want to put on the sports glasses that I wear. You hold them, try them this way and that, but they don’t go on right. I try to help you, but you won’t let me. You get frustrated and throw my sports glasses and scream and cry “I can’t do it!”. I get upset too, then you get more upset.
Let the people who love and care about you help you too! Sometimes you have to learn how to do something with some help.